October 28, 2014

Finding Life in Infertility

There was so much life in my home last night. I woke up to empty wine glasses scattered about my living room and dishes filling my sink. And, I sat and cried in gratitude. I have found this beautiful infertility and adoption community. These women filled my home last night, some who have been coming since the beginnings of this group 6 months ago, and some whose faces and stories were brand new to me.  But regardless of what history or lack of history we have with each other, we were instantly and eternally bonded because we share each other's deepest pain and greatest passion through our infertility and adoption journeys. I adore these women.

 My mind is always racing and processing for a while after these monthly gatherings. Each time blows me away with how God is moving and how God can turn pain into purpose. My thoughts woke me up before the sun and the rest of my house this morning. As I sat and reflected in the quiet stillness of the morning, I started to hear giggles coming from the back of the house. The quiet giggles quickly turned into loud happy yells. I walked in to get my munchkin out of bed, and his delight when I opened that door melted me. He reached his arms up to hug me, and in my arms was where he wanted to stay all morning. We played in the backyard. He held my hand as he walked, contemplating letting go, but just not quite ready yet. He'd play on his own for a couple minutes, then crawl over to me to give me a hug or lay on my lap. Back to play. Back to me...over and over. He has my heart.

There is life after infertility. 
There is life in the middle of infertility.  
I have found it, and I am so very grateful. 

Morning greetings....
...and outside play time.
If you are experiencing infertility and don't have a community of people who are in the same boat, I hope you find one. If you can't find one, maybe you could start one. I've been amazed at how many people have come into my life since I started praying for a community like this.  Being able to share with people who walk this same road has helped me find peace with infertility. 

Also, about adoption. If it's on your radar, and you're struggling with whether or not to take that leap, just do it...whether infertility is a part of your story or not. Adoption is the most amazing miracle I have ever experienced. It gave me a son who far exceeds my wildest dreams, and not a day goes by that I am not thankful for the infertility that became a part of the story that led us to him. He has brought joy and life to our home and filled my heart to overflowing.
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  1. I loved hearing about your group (and your son is such a doll!). I'd be interested in hearing more about your group and how it works. I've thought about starting something similar, but I just have no idea where to begin. I have all these questions about whether it should informal or formal, with a curriculum or just sitting and chatting, etc. I'd appreciate hearing anything you'd be willing to share!

    1. Hey Lisa! Great question! I feel like I'm still figuring a lot of that out. For now, it's pretty informal, and the formalities of it really depend on how many people are there at each meeting. There are times when we only have 4 or 5 people, and in that case, we just sit around and chat. When we have a larger group (usually not more than10), we decided to give everyone a chance to share an update and what has been hard that particular month. That usually takes a while and sparks a lot of great conversation. The group may grow into something that needs a little more structure or curriculum, but for now, it's great having it be more informal. It's just nice for everyone to be together and feel known. I would definitely encourage you to do something similar!

  2. Mindy, I found your blog through your adoption profile book someone had pinned. Thank you for sharing bits of your adoption process and story - it is honest, warm and beautiful. It encourages me as we begin to navigate the process ourselves. Thank you for that! xo